Haven’t you noticed how a lie someone tells you, and you know it’s a lie, keeps bugging you, even though you know it’s a lie? I have and I’ve come to some pretty convincing conclusions.
A lie is to trust like kryptonite is to Superman. The two cannot be in close proximity to each other. If they do Superman will surely perish. This is exactly how lies and trust operate.
Trust cannot exist within the same confinements as a lie – even a sweet little lie. It starts to erode the fabric of trust and very soon trust is gone and suspicion takes over. This also brings unwelcome and often dire consequences. I believe Aristotle meant this when he said,
“The least initial deviation from the truth is multiplied later a thousandfold.”
He saw that a little lie was like a little fungus that grows on bread. Sooner or later, it overtakes the whole loaf and there’s nothing you can do but throw it away. Back to the question above, I can only say it changes our personal perspective radically especially toward the person who lied.
Take a business partner for example who cheats you in a deal. Would you still trust that person with another deal? I doubt it. The person’s reputation with you has already been tarnished. The same also applies to personal relationships.
If you knew someone close to you lied about something, it doesn’t have to be something serious, just a little sweet lie, would believe anything they said in the future? I also doubt it. There would always be the question in your mind questioning the legitimacy and integrity of what they said. Even if you believe in forgiveness, you will always remember and even confronting it would do you no good.
Trust is a very precious bond between people and once broken, can never be put back again.